Go with God, but Go! I wish I could claim the creation of this statement, but someone I know borrowed the phrase from a nun. There is nothing wrong with acknowledging that someone no longer needs to be in your life. Finding the words and the strength within to acknowledge this and act on it can be quite empowering. As a mentor of mine once said, it is not the what, but the intent behind the what. There are numerous ways to tell people you no longer desire to have them a part of your present life. You can do so with an intent of hate or fear, or you can do so with an intent of love.
For example, a few people from a very challenging part of my life recently contacted me. After four years, they were requesting to get together and catch up on old times. As I began praying about what to do, my GPS (God Protection System) kicked in and warned me quite vividly of danger ahead. The sharpness of the message reminded me of the robot from Lost in Space who would periodically shout Danger Will Robinson, Danger. I knew I was not supposed to do more then acknowledge their email with love, so I took the time to think about the risk that they had taken to reach out to me, and shared with them that I wished them well and prayed for God’s guidance on their journey. However, I had been intentional about not maintaining contact with the members of this group. I wish them all nothing but love and light in their lives. My final words to each of them were “Be blessed and know you are love.” As I wrote them, I could hear myself thinking Go with God, but Go!
The decision to be loving to with all of us was an act of self-empowerment. It reminded me I had the courage to speak my truth in love. It also allowed me to express my love and compassion for them and their risks to extend those invitations. It provided me with an opportunity to practice several of the spiritual values we have been reflecting on and studying this year: compassion, humanity, integrity, etc. At the same time, I was able to listen to my intuition and trust that the Infinite Presence would help me through the discernment process.
The steps we take in uncomfortable situations can help to create environments that are empowering or disempowering to one or all parties involved. In making any decision am I being impeccable with my thoughts and words about others and myself? Am I taking anything personally? If so, what do I need to do to reframe my perspective on the situation? Am I making assumptions? Am I doing my best at the time? Am I listening to my intuition and allowing the love of the Divine to guide me through what I say and do?
My Bubby taught me when life hands you a lemon; you make lemonade. We each have the capacity to take the “lemon” experience in our lives and create “lemonade” with the love we have for humanity. When we offer the lemonade, it may not be what all parties desired, but it was prepared, offered, and served with love. This approach can create a space where others can learn how to do the same with others. When we transform situations in our lives, it not only empowers us, it empowers those who are affected by and witness the transformation.
There may be times in your life, when you would like to depart from a person, group, or situation. Rather then leave with lemons in your heart, mind, and soul; leave with love for all in your heart and remember it is time for you all to “Go with God, but Go!”