This past Wednesday I had the last of my four
Reiki 1 classes and as with last week, it began with my teacher asking me to close
my eyes and pick three cards. The three that I picked were Destiny, Wisdom, and Nonjudgmental.
As with last week, she smiled and she said yes those are you; read the backs if
you would like. You just need to walk in the fullness of them
Wisdom – Treat everyone and everything with loving compassion. When you see no difference between the sacred and the profane, the saint and the sinner. That is the ultimate wisdom.
Destiny – You can look . . . and you will find it. You can not look . . . and you will find it. That which is yours will surely come to you.
Nonjudgmental – To straighten what is crooked, you must first straighten yourself. Once you are aligned, the whole world looks different.
So what do I need to do to walk more fully in these qualities in the future? I have been thinking about this a lot lately and I have to be intentional about having the wisdom to be non-judgmental. When I can no longer see the saint any difference the sinner, then I have achieved the ultimate wisdom and am being nonjudgmental. However, first I have to align the energies and beliefs in my own life.
This is the second week I have drawn the wisdom card, which has been important, as it has caused me to be intentional about being nonjudgmental. It has reminded me of one of the teachings I learned in my study of Toltec Wisdom; if I cannot love everyone unconditionally, then I cannot love unconditionally. I have been trying to focus on how important it is to be intentional about loving all of humanity unconditionally. I am then reminded that this does not mean I have to like everyone. However, I do need to love them, even and especially, when they do not love me.
This lesson really hit home for me a few weeks ago, when I witnessed someone I like being emotionally abused by someone close to them. I found myself struggling with my feelings about the person who abused them and that they allowed that person to do so. One of the most life changing lessons I have learned the last several years is that others cannot abuse us to a degree greater then we are willing to abuse ourselves. At some point, one has to stand up and say NO. No, as I heard Deepak Chopra once say, is a complete sentence. There is no explanation needed.
All I can do is send love to both of them, so that is what I have been doing. I have been sending them positive and healing energies because I know that abusiveness comes from a space of internal pain and that love changes all things. Having witnessed the transformative power of love in my life and the life of my son, I know how powerful love is. I have also been sending love and healing energies to myself, realizing that when I witnessed this it also wounded me. I needed to release the feelings which came from the conflict between wanting to say more to the person who was abusive and not saying more because I wanted to respect the other person enough for them to stand up for themselves. It saddens me deeply when people have temporarily lost the ability to stand up for themselves. So I am sending healing and courage to my other friend as well so that she can reclaim her voice and rebuild her self-esteem enough to say NO!
Maybe witnessing this and working my way through the feelings was part of my destiny. Maybe there was a reason I was supposed to witness this. Maybe this was an opportunity for me to work on my own internal alignment so I could become nonjudgmental, walk in my ultimate wisdom and continue to be guided by my destiny.